ليس أمرا غريبا أن تخسر شخصا ما، وهو أمر ليس بالسيئ ولا المأساوي، ولا الباعث على الوجوم. أن تقرر أن تخسر هذا أو ذاك، يشبه قرارك بعبور الشارع أمام هذه السيارة تحديدا، أو قرار شربك شايا بالنعناع،أو ارتدائك هذا الجاكيت اليوم دون غيره.
إن خسارة شخص ما، مثل الاستيقاظ باكرا في الشتاء، أمر مزعج في البداية، ثم تعتاد عليه. فأنت تعرف جيدا أنه عليك الاستيقاظ. هكذا الأمر، مثل الواجب الوظيفي. وعندما تعمل لدى ذاتك، ليس أمرا لطيفا أن تعاملها باستهتار، فأنت تعرف أنها تستطيع الخصم من راتبك المتواضع أصلا، أو إعطائك أجازة بدون مرتب لتعيد التفكير في الأمر!.
خسارة شخص ما تشبه سفرية عمل، تحضر لها، وتحجز في فندق مناسب، ثم تودع أصحابك وأنت تعرف أن "هذا كان لابد أن يحدث"، وبهذه الحقيقة تصعد الطائرة مبتسما.
بل إنه أمر يشبه تغيير عدسات النظارات الطبية (ويعرف كل مستخدمي النظارات الطبية هذا الأمر). تضع النظارات الجديدة فتنبهر، ثمة نور يضيء كل شيء، وبمجرد أن تحرك قدميك، تميل الأرض والحوائط وتنتقي خطواتك بحرص كمن يسير فوق الماء. وبعد قليل، يزول الانبهار والميل الوهمي، وتبقى سعادتك الداخلية بأنك أخيرا -وغالبا مايكون "أخيرا"- غيرت العدسات!.
ليس قرارا سهلا أن تخسر شخصا ما، بل هو في صعوبة أن تقرر شرب النسكافيه "بلاك"، لأنك اكتشفت فجأة أنك لسنين طويلة كنت تملأ نصف المج بمشروب لا يهمك إطلاقا، يفسد طعم النسكافيه، ويقلل من مزاجك!.
Tuesday, December 11, 2007
عن ذواتنا التي نعمل لديها، وذوات الاخرين اللي بتقع منا في الطريق.
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عزيزتى رحاب
عجبتنى اوى الكلمتين اللى فوق دول
بصراحة دى شجاعة ادبية نادرة
وهى المدونات معمولة عشان كدة اصلا
عشان نطلع اللى جوانا
بغض النظر عن انه هيعجب ولا مش هيعجب
سعدت باكتشاف مدونتك
تحياتى
والله انا كمان سعدت بزيارتك
بس الحقيقة أنا مش رحاب خالص
:)
من كام يوم بسبب موقف ما كنت بناقش ذاتى العليه فى هذا الأمر وبعد قراءة كلماتك إكتشفت إن الموضوع عندى أبسط من كده بكتير وأن المجهود الأكبر يكون فى إقناع هذا السخص أن يبتعد دا إذا كان لزقه
مساء الفل
ههههههههههه
أسوأ نوع النوع اللزقة ده
المهم انه فك!
مساء الفل
Since you deleted your note on Facebook, or blocked me from seeing your notes (it doesn't really matter), I just insisted (since I'm "laz2a") on telling you that, in answer to your most appreciated explanation, I would say that I understood this bit, but that I still find it outrageous to compare it to "deciding to drink mint tea" or to "wearing a certain jacket on a certain day"...
Keep it up!!!!!!!!!!
hehehee.. No honey, I just thought it's a silly idea to write the note on facebook, since it's a blog post, and I already has it on my blog, so I removed it!..
And sure it could be outrageous, but in some point they are similar, the point that is related Only To "the decision". In my 1st paragraph, I wanted to tell I'm against the idea of making it "losing some one" such a big deal and reason to cry, because first it's a decision, and second it's your decision!, don't cry about it!..
Cheeeeeeeers!
:)))
And sure you're welcome here anytime, I always sent you mails about some blog posts, it's all a web page thing!
Dear,
with all due respect, decisions are not one and the same! In my humble view, losing someone (especially if this was someone dear) means you're giving up part of you, all the emotional, psychological, intellectual and physical investment you've given to this relationship whatever it is (love, friendship, family, etc...), it means you've given up hope on it and that you've decided to frame it and keep this frame inside you, take the bittersweet memories it contains, the suffering, the relief, everything.... AND THIS, FOR GOODNESS SAKE, IS DEFINITELY MUCH MORE SIGNIFICANT AND PROFOUND THAN DRINKING A CERTAIN TYPE OF TEA OR WEARING A CERTAIN DRESS....
Sorry for all the screaming! You, sometimes, get on my nerves (well, most of the time to be honest!)
OKAY! CALM DOWN!. Nothing is so serious to get u on nerves!. If every part of me is a part of a relationship I would lose on losing the person, I'll end up nothing!. I don't feel I lose a part of me, surprisingly, I feel happy! where I think "Ahh.. one more relief, one more play stopped", and it isn't some thing I "should" or "shouldn't" do!!, it's a feeling.
And mint tea is more imp. for me than some people!. Choosing a jacket?! is that really easy?? stop kidding!
ps: the whole last paragraph was a joke!!:))))
Well, I thought it was a serious piece you wrote, and not a joking one! I also thought it was obvious that I didn't say that EVERY part of you is part of a relationship, but EVERY meaningful relationship represents part of you!!
If you don't feel you lost something with every person you lose and with whom you've been in a serious relationship, then allow me to say that you've never been true either to yourself or to the other person in this relationship! It's not a matter of "should" or shouldn't" but as you said something you feel or don't feel and in your case, it seems that it's always the latter case!
by "joke" I meant the paragraph in the comment, not in the post.
And my post "which was serious" wasn't about some one dear and a "part of me". If you want the truth, it was about a son of a bitch that I'm so glad to lose, and so wrong to know from the beginning. And if this person not being a part of me, will make me "not true to myself and to him" in your point of view, so it be!!!!. If you want to know how I would feel about losing some one dear to me, get back and read my old post "تداعيات فقدان اللون المفضل" which I think you already read since you commented on it. Actually this post was showing my vision about how (losing some one is a decision), and didn't mention anything personal about me, or my own feelings for any loss I experienced. And if this writing is meanless to you, or u think it's a piece of shit, your opinion is so welcome, but I don't know how this turned to reveal my fake personality and that I'm "not true to myself" and "pseudo-self-centered", and I'm not aiming to discuss that! :)
Well, I had understood that the joke concerned "your comment" and not your piece (By the way, it's not the nicest thing in the world to keep systematically on explaining things to people assuming that they're not smart enough to understand what you brilliantly put on paper or on a computer screen! Because THEY might be offended, myself included, by this assumption and might even think that the one who's not smart enough to get the SARCASM is YOU) and I still think that it's not the most appropriate thing in the world to comment "jokingly" on a serious piece of your creation in a discussion with someone who, alas, took you seriously but definitely regret having done that!
To me, a "son of a bitch" or a "son of a saint" doesn't exactly make the ontological difference between the presence and absence of suffering for loss!!!
I had indeed read the other post and found it, honestly, not only pseudo-self-centered and pretentious but also, as petty and immature as can be, and I know perfectly well that my opinion is NOT welcome and that you absolutely have the right not to want to discuss it and that's why I'm never going to speak a word of it again in whatever concerns your writings...
Keep it up young writer!!! keep shining forever and ever!!!
Kindest regards!
well.. it's all petty, pretentious, not true, and immature. And I'm the worst childish writer ever, who still indeed make people feel offended!,
thx for the kindest regards.
جميل ان نشعر بأن هذا الصديق المزعوم هو ذالك الشئ الذى يملئ الكوب دون فائدة
الاسلوب كالعادة رائع وجميل وياريت ياريهام متتأخريش فى تحديث المدونة زى ما أتأخرتى المرة دى
تحياتى لقلمك وأسلوبك الجميل
شكرا ليك
:)
hayil
thanks.
مش دايما الحياة قرارات
ومش دايما بنقرر نفقد حد
بس لما فقدان شخص بيكون نتيجة لقرار .. فدا بيكون جميل ومريح ومطلوب
تحياتي
لما يبقي فيه حفلة لوجيه هقلك
تحياتي
ريهااااااااااام
ايه الكلام الكبير ده
احلي حاجه فيكي انك لما تتكلمي كلام كبير
بيكون في بساطه انك تطلبي شاي بالنعناع
انا خمنت مين هو الشخص ؟
وانتي عرفتي تخميني
منتظر تقولي صح ولا غلط
The alien..
مرسي ليك
وياريت فعلا تقولي
رجب باشا..
غلط طبعا
:)
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